Hey Niami, I am sorry to hear about the problem you have. Before I give my opinion just let me say something to Korhaler…..
Korhaler - U know dude I take alot of crap from people. Hell I let people call me just about anything they like. However there are two things that I cannot stand.
1. Someone calling me or insunating that I am a liar.
2. Someone calling a friend of mine a liar.
I think you really need to back off. Yeah so I dont know niami that well, but like all the other regulars that I talk to (or argue with) I consider her a friend. At least she is being honest instead of using the ole ‘A friend of mine…’ line.
Moral of the story, if you really want to attack niami like that or if you continue to do so, then I WILL stick up for her using EVERY means and trick necessary.
Now for Niami…
I am not a pro-lifer or anything but I really think abortion (in this case) is totally wrong. There are times and circumstances when abortion is ok, but this unfortunately is not one of them.
I can see that you have thought about this seriously which is good. Naturally (as the others have said) whatever decision you make is yours, and I dont think any of your friends will look at you differently no matter what you decide. I personally would look at giving the child up for adoption if you definately can’t keep it.
The reasons for this is, just think of the joy you will be bringing to the life of people who obviously for some reason cannot have a child of their own. Add to this the fact that in this day and age, it is quite common for adopted children to locate their biological parents and become very close to them down the track.
With this option you will not have the guilt that comes later associated with abortion, and if it is done correctly you can actual get a fair bit of happiness from watching the prospective future parents excitement build as you pregnancy progresses.
Well those are my thoughts. I think just about everyone has presented great ideas (talking to professionals etc), and as such I wish you all the best of luck and hope that things work out for you.